What Are We Teaching Our Children?

I believe emotional intelligence and trusting instincts to be the most important things I could teach my children. My husband and I have high IQs and earn a good salary (before motherhood I did) however we have no idea how to have, or to teach parts of emotional intelligence. Is there a resource to help parents with this? My experience shows that even when preschool teaches my children self awareness, when we model the lack of it, our children lean toward our modeling - not the modeling from school. Also, my attempts to give my children the opportunity to think through choices and name their feelings appear to others (family members especially) to be a lack of discipline.

I am a mother of three beautiful girls ages 6, 9 and 12. I have been able to achieve a healthy lifestyle with balance. All of the teachers have commented on how well adjusted, responsible and happy they seem. When I have explained to them that I incorporate nature, animals, and feel that being consistent is very important for maintaining their balance. We have a garden, chickens, and horses all of these require responsibly. It is also our outlet. We are actually lucky to have a place to allow us these things, but are in the city for the most part. I have been wanting to set up opportunities for other children to share in this because I know first hand how beneficial it is to these young ones. I know what it does for me too. I feel in this country that we have lost some fundamental basics that have led to childhood obesity, over stimulations with electronics, and crime. Balance is a key issue for youngsters. It of course is for the parents as well, and we all have to remember we are paving the road for them.

To this I would the controversial topic of spirituality. I understand this is a sticky issue because everyone has different belief systems. Ultimately however, isn’t the true measure of success in life to be happy, and at peace with one’s own being? If we accept that as the true measure of success in life, we must develop the tools to ponder and contemplate the purpose of our life, to silence our outward thoughts, and know our innermost self. This is something we should all know how to do regardless of our religious belief. The fact of the matter however is that most people don’t. They have no sense of purpose, or their own place or importance in life. Without that, how can one hope to find success.

Will, You state, “The most important factors in life are not as much mental as emotional”. Where is the evidence of that? What we are teaching our children in the schools today are quantifiable skills. Measurable defict beforehand and measurable delta afterwards. Or, at least, we should be. Instead way too much class time and school resources are devoted to Character Education, Violence prevention and Safety programs with no basis in either need or benefit in evidence. In fact, they amount to no more than conservative moralizing along the lines of right-wing religious ideology. Please don’t give us one more program that sounds great on the face of it but has no substance. For data and references on what actually is proven in this area, please see: http://members.cox.net/patriotismforall/character_ed_links.html

Will - We are now in a “post-modern” era where industrial-age recipes like “…institutionally teach emotional intelligence…” have little hope of working. Your idea of “…self-awareness, self-control, self-discipline, and selfless motivations…” is laudable, but these are best learned either from within, or from examples and community efforts to share them, not from some curriculum bureaucrats in Sacramento or similar garden spots. The French philosophers Foucault and Derrida converge with F. A. Hayek on recognizing the primacy of …the will not to be governed?, as an information-age recurrence of Schopenhauer’s primacy-of-will principle. I have little first-hand experience in how effective your institutional-teaching approach will be. In my experience, the only American public institution I’ve seen that can teach emotional-intelligence concepts effectively is the U.S. military, and then most effectively within their elite-operator corps (SEALS, Rangers, P-J Rescue, Marine Recon, Delta, etc.), where all participants are volunteers who bring strong motivation and desire to belong with, and measure up to their exclusive brotherhoods. Whenever I have encountered admirable exemplars, I have grafted their traits into my own persona. But only when I concluded that the examples were attractive and worthy in my lights, not when told so by some unionized civil servant, or even someone in clerical garb. Just as FOX News boasts “we report, you decide”, I assert the same autonomy in choosing my examples. Self-chosen self-concepts are the only ones I know of that stick. It’s a simple enough point, one that every successful auto dealership, pizza parlor, and even brothel understands - the customer decides, not the ACLU, not some hive of drones on K Street in Sacramento, or any other institution. Examples count! Tony Robbins can not only walk across burning coals, but he can teach others to do it too. Maybe even Goleman, some day. These are my thoughts. Others may hold different opinions.

Our schools are not teaching Emotional Intelligence, because parents are not demanding it. Parents are not demanding it because they want elementary and secondary schools to be college preparatory in nature. So the question becomes, What college/degree program bases admission on emotional qualities? None, that I am aware of. The crime of the issue is… everything after college i.e. career success, relationship success, etc. is directly tied to Emotional intelligence. There is a big difference between a degree and an education. My solution… Dismantle our current Prussian based school system and rebuild it from scratch aligning it’s goals with the goals on today’s society.

It’s simple. Get out now. We cannot solve their problems. We shouldn’t try to make democracy work where people do not want it. American’s knew what democracy was and had a revolution to gain it. One cannot impose democracy on another. It is an intrinsic philosophy. You either want it or you don’t. I don’t even think the sunni and shia understand why they fight other than it’s always been that way. It’s a rotten war and it is time to come home. Let them solve their own problems however they want. It’s a sad situation but it is what it is. America should never be a colonial power. We fought England because of that very thing. It’s another Viet Nam minus the communist.

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